4 Tips for Being a Great Conversationalist

April 6, 2013 | Topics: , , , , | READ 0 COMMENTS & JOIN THE DISCUSSION

couple having conversationIf you sometimes find it difficult to make conversation with others – especially strangers – here are 4 tips that will put you more at ease:

1. Be fully engaged – Being fully engaged involves incorporating these powerful communication skills:

  • Be genuinely interested – When you are interested in people, they know it. Good conversationalists show their interest by focusing their attention on the person they are talking to. They make solid eye contact, they nod in understanding, make short affirming comments, they do not interrupt, and they do not allow their attention to be diverted with distractions.
  • Actively listen – Active listening skills include paying close attention to what is being said by the speaker and not thinking about what you are going to say next. Paraphrasing back what you heard, and asking clarifying questions are effective techniques to ensure that you understand what the speaker has said.

2. Don’t tell. Ask – So you don’t have to feel the pressure of carrying the conversations by talking about yourself, ask questions instead. By asking questions of the person you are speaking with, it shows your interest and engages them further in the conversation. Close-ended questions are answered with a simple “yes” or “no” response. Therefore, ask open-ended questions which usually start with “What” and “How”. Open-ended questions require that the speaker share more about the topic, and often leads to stimulating and thought-provoking conversation.

3. F.O.R.I.M. keeps the conversation alive – A sure-fire way to keep the conversation going is to ask open-ended questions about the subject that matters most to the person you are talking to – themselves. Use this simple formula to keep a conversation flowing – F.O.R.I.M – Family, Occupation, Recreation, Interests, and Message. You can ask many questions in these areas that include inquiring about their partner and children, hobbies, passions, interests, sports, type of work, where they live and more.

Once you master asking open-ended questions using F-O-R-I, you can use the “M” (Message) to close your conversation. You might say something like, “It was wonderful chatting with you, do you have a business card?”, “I’d love to get together some time, would you like to do that?” or simply, “It was great to talk with you, good luck with your business.”

A strong close makes you and the other person feel that your encounter came full circle to a satisfying completion.

4. Know when to bring the conversation to an end – Even the best conversations will eventually come to a natural end or be ended by an interruption. Notice the cues of the other person such as them looking at their watch, restless body language, lulls, or their attention being diverted. At that point, give them your “M” (your Message from #3), and end on a positive note.

Rosie Coppin, the Energizer Coach, helps people who want to make changes in their life – whatever they may be. Ready to take control of your life but not sure how to start? Contact Positive Goals & Solutions today for an exploration of what’s possible for you. Mobile: 0414 511 455

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