How to reinvent your career in 9 easy steps

How to reinvent your career in 9 easy steps

Are you an employee, business owner or manager who suddenly finds it necessary to reinvent your career due to the economy, a lay off or going out of business? Or, do these uncertain times simply inspire you to make a ch… READ MORE

Plan Your Work, Work Your Plan

Plan Your Work, Work Your Plan

We all want to be successful, right? We all dream of accomplishing big goals and reaping the rewards of a job well done. But how can you improve the odds of coming out on top? Here are a few tips that should help you ou… READ MORE

Bullying on the Job

Bullying on the Job

Say the word “bully,” and most people imagine a childhood playground and stolen lunch money. As traumatic as childhood bullying can be, workplace bullying can have an even bigger impact on the psychological and phys… READ MORE

Decisions

February 2, 2015 | READ 0 COMMENTS & JOIN THE DISCUSSION

DecisionsThere’s a great old song by the group The Lovin’ Spoonful with the line that asks “Did you ever have to make up your mind…say ‘yes’ to one, and let the other one ride?” While the song laments the need to choose between two girls, choosing one thing and letting another go is a common predicament of everyone’s life.

Considering your choices is the easy part of making a decision. The hard part comes when you have to make up your mind and move in one direction at the expense of another, often while moving into the unknown.  After all, if we KNEW the outcome, the decision would be much easier, right?

For many people, “buyer’s remorse” enters into the picture when the choice they made was not a clear and convincing decision, perhaps due to a quick timeframe or insufficient information.

So how do you minimize buyer’s remorse so you can feel more confident about your decisions?

  1. Get as much information as you can in the amount of time you have.
  2. Write a pros/cons list.  While this is an old trick, it’s still tried and true.
  3. Get quiet to listen to your instinct, the universe, God or your source (whichever is best for you).
  4. Seek the counsel of others you trust. Don’t listen to the naysayers or people who are not credible in the area of your concern.
  5. Realize that MOST things are not irrevocable.
  6. Immediately lock in on the benefits of your decision.  Don’t focus on what’s wrong (because nothing is perfect). Focus on what’s right.
  7. Affirm how your decision is moving you toward your ultimate goal.
  8. Decide, commit and go for it!  Commitment means that once your decision is made, you “go with it” and make the best effort you can to ensure success.

Isn’t it true that you lose more sleep over decisions you haven’t made, than decisions that have been made with conviction?

What decisions have you been putting off that you can make today?

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The Road to Forgiveness is a Journey Toward Freedom

January 3, 2015 | READ 0 COMMENTS & JOIN THE DISCUSSION

Freedom“If unresolved anger is a toxin to the spirit, forgiveness is the antidote,” wrote Brian Luke Seaward in his book, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water: Reflections on Stress and Human Spirituality.
When people get hurt, they often react with resentment, anger, rage, even hatred. While some of these feelings may be appropriate responses, holding on to them can cause emotional pain and stress. Nurturing old wounds and resentments is like tending weeds in the garden. The more care you give them, the more they take over until there’s no room for the feelings that can nourish you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning inappropriate behavior and excusing personal violations. It doesn’t mean giving up or hiding or denying what was done. To forgive someone of something doesn’t necessarily mean turning the other cheek so that you can be hurt again. To forgive doesn’t mean you forget that you were harmed. Or that you felt the way you did as a result.

What it does mean is letting go of the feelings of anger or resentment, so that you can get on with your life. Forgiving is a process—sometimes slow—that heals wounds and returns our power to us. So long as we hold onto old feelings, we give control of our lives over to those who have hurt us. Forgiveness sets us free.

Ways to Forgive
It’s not as though you can just decide to forgive someone and it is done. Forgiving is an active process. To get from here to there is a journey to be travelled. But you don’t have to take it alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help along the way.

Acknowledge all the feelings. Though anger and resentment might be on top, beneath may lie feelings of hurt, betrayal, loss and grief. Uncovering these more tender emotions may be painful, but, like curves in the road, it is part of the journey to be travelled.

Stop blaming. So long as you hold someone else responsible for your feelings or circumstances, you don’t own your own life. You stop blaming by accepting total responsibility for your life.

Release the desire for revenge. The wish to inflict suffering or pain on the person who hurt us keeps us in a place of suffering and pain. We cannot experience the freedom of forgiveness until we are willing to move away from the need to punish.

Learn to accept. It’s virtually impossible to stop judging; however, the fewer negative judgments we make, the easier it is to accept. And, according to author Wayne Dyer, “Acceptance is forgiveness in action.” Think of how useless negative judgments are: does it affect the weather because we say it’s awful? Imagine complaining to God about the quality of a sunset. Judgements say very little about the judged, but communicate lots about the one who is doing the judging.

Decide to confront or not. Talking with a person who has harmed you may or may not be the best action to take. Professional assistance can help you in making this decision.

Let go. Only through releasing all feelings of anger, resentment, or animosity can forgiveness be unconditional. “Sweet forgiveness cannot hold any taste of bitterness,” says Brian Luke Seaward. “When feelings of anger are released, the spirit once held captive by the encumbrance of anger is free to journey again.”

Self-forgiveness
Forgiveness is not just an outward expression toward others. Turning the open hand of forgiveness inward is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. When we forgive ourselves we acknowledge our human limitations, release ourselves from our own judgments and practice self-acceptance. These actions are essential for a life of freedom and joy.

Through action or inaction, out of fear, pain or confusion, we may harm ourselves or others. But when we say, “I’ll never forgive myself,” we sentence ourselves to a life of guilt and shame.

Practice self-forgiveness through:
accepting yourself rather than judging yourself
honoring yourself rather than blaming yourself
nurturing yourself rather than criticizing yourself
releasing the past rather than holding onto it

Forgiveness, even self-forgiveness cannot be forced. And it may not come easily. Like many other skills we must learn, self-forgiveness takes practice. If you are unable to immediately release the past and move on, be forgiving of yourself and continue the practice.

Rosie Coppin, the Energizer Coach, helps people who want to make changes in their life – whatever they may be. Ready to take control of your life but not sure how to start?
Contact Positive Goals & Solutions today for an exploration of what’s possible for you. Mobile: 0414 511 455

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Plan Your Work, Work Your Plan

January 3, 2015 | READ 0 COMMENTS & JOIN THE DISCUSSION

Plan Your Work, Work Your PlanWe all want to be successful, right? We all dream of accomplishing big goals and reaping the rewards of a job well done.

But how can you improve the odds of coming out on top? Here are a few tips that should help you out…

1. Make a plan.

Start with point A (where you are) and point B (where you want to be), then think of every possible way you can imagine to get there. Be sure to include any obstacles that you can foresee and how you might overcome them.

2. Make a list of benefits.

Without expectation at the end of your effort, it’s really easy to get stopped by problems. If you list out all of the rich rewards of achieving your goal, you’re more likely to stick with it through the difficulties and achieve success.

3. Get going.

Now that you know where you’re going, how to get there, and what you’ll have once you’ve arrived, get started…and KEEP GOING. No matter what happens, don’t give up. Work your plan every step of the way, and you will achieve the success you desire.

You don’t have to know every step of the journey or every obstacle that you’re going to face, but you can easily establish a basic framework that will help keep you on track along the way.

What plans can you make today?

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